Friday, January 11, 2013

In Line with the Kim Chiu, Maja Salvador Rift over Gerald Anderson - Is It Okay to Date Your Best Friend's Ex?

In line with the latest happenings in the local showbiz scene, an interesting topic is now the talk-of-the-town at schools, in the offices, segments at shows like Umagang Kay Ganda, social networking sites and so many more.

Is it okay to date the ex of your best friend

When the news about the Kim Chiu-Maja Salvador rift broke out, I can totally relate with Kim. No one needs to ask, I just thought that I don’t think that any girl would want to be in the position of Kim. It may be okay if the Maja in the story is a mere acquaintance or a classmate or a former colleague, but if this was done by the person whom you consider the best among your friends, it can really get confusing and unfathomable on how could they do this to you.

I have read some articles, which commented that this only happened because Kim still has feelings for Gerald. Most of these articles were written by gays. I still have to see a woman write that this scenario is okay or a straight man. This draws me into the conclusion that for gays, they would be fine with it. Is it?

The scenario here is this. Gerald was Kim’s first love. She has suffered lots of heartaches, and even Gerald admitted that he has hurt Kim’s feelings over and over again. Kim used to be meek. She even defended this guy amid the Pauleen Luna issue even when Pauleen herself was posting pictures of Gerald and her together, along with the same friends (cohorts) whom he would always be seen whenever Gerald would have controversial pictures out with different girls, both from showbiz and out of the industry.

Kim was able to keep her silence. To get past the broken-hearted stage, she turned to Maja and told her everything about this person who has given her biggest heart break. As a best friend, you would think that Maja would always keep a safe distance from Gerald for hurting her best friend (the best friend who has showered her with material gifts and helped her to be noticed in the business where Maja has been stuck as a starlet for a long time).

Maja may be a friendly person and she extended the attitude towards Gerald, the one person who made her best friend feel like a trash at one point in her life. I don’t know what’s the real score between them. With Gerald’s history and reputation, he would not tell the truth even if he is already caught red-handed. He was seen with Pauleen at the time that he was still in a relationship with Kim.

Gerald said. Not true. He doesn't even know the girl

He was seen going out with Bea Alonzo, while his relationship with Kim was said to be on the rocks.


Gerald said. Not true. Bea was only his crush. (Yeah, I know, he was forced to admit the truth after Bea turned her back on him for not having enough balls to defend her against the detractors that were throwing the stones at the wrong person.)

He was seen being intimate with a non-showbiz girl while he was professing on screen his admiration for Sarah Geronimo.

CTO: Google and all original owners of the pictures above 
Gerald said. She was just a fan.

I already saw the teaser for tomorrow's The Buzz episode (January 13), so I'll add it here. Regarding Maja...


Gerald said. I would love to (court her) if she will give me the chance.

Court talaga? Based on the pictures and recent twits of sighting of these two, parang di na kailangan ng ligawan e =)

All these images can be found in Google. And I did not search for anything that relates to Gerald being linked with gay benefactors. I am not sure that I am ready with what I’ll find and a part of me still believes that he would not do that. Don’t tell me Maja was not aware of these brouhahas because all you need is to type Gerald’s name and name of the person whom you think he is dating or used to date, on Google, and you will see trails of this playboy’s favorite game – girls.

In my opinion, if Maja was a real friend of Kim, she would not dare date or even think of getting close to Gerald.

If the Gerald in the story was part of a girl-boy romance that ended because they realized that they did not click, but parted as friends and the girl still regards the boy highly, then I don’t see anything wrong if the best friend would later on enter the scene. The former girlfriend would even try pairing up the two if she believes that they are more right for each other.

Well, as we all know and also Mr. Google, the Kim-Gerald romance did not end the typical way. One was left badly hurting, while the other just went on doing what he does best – girl hunting.

To make the story more complicated, Maja was a good friend of Sarah as well. They may not be the best of friends, but they would always have good words towards one another and Maja even showed her support by watching Sarah’s shows.

If this happened to commoners like me, I would even be fiercer than Kim. After asking Maja to help me get through my trust issues, she would be the last person I’d think of who will break that trust. If I were Kim, I would not plead to the bashers to stop hating on the two. I will cheer them on. Haha!

On the part of Gerald, knowing that her ex girlfriend is the best friend of his current eye candy, he would have the decency not to make the latter fall for him, if he was sincere in saying that he was sorry for hurting Kim in the past. Well, I guess that decency is not part of Gerald's vocabulary.

I have read somewhere that Sam Milby asked John Pratts’ permission before he started dating or asked Shaina Magdayao out. The case here is that Shaina gave John a bad heartbreak for dumping him to be with John Lloyd Cruz. It is just that John also has the image of being a playboy, so I guess, he would not really mind this development.

41 comments:

Molybdenum Studios said...

I believe that if you fall in love with your BFF's ex who hurt her, that is an act of betrayal and a sign of insensitivity at the same time.

If your friend does not like that guy (or hates that guy), you don't talk to him in a "feeling close" manner.

I thought Ge would be a great guy, pero buti na lang SG listened (

Anonymous said...

Like you said this is a girl or a woman's perspective of the who situation.... so much different from a gay or binabae's take.
This only shows what kind of a girl Maja is. Parang nasaktan si Kim not because of Gerald this time but because nanghihinayang siya sa friendship na binuo niya with Maja. Tama si Kim, kinain lang ni Maja yung mga sinabi niya (abt. Gerald). Me too, I never liked Maja. Parang kahit sino lang pwede nyang patulan, parang si Bea.

Anonymous said...

on a lady's point of view it is considered a betrayal to your friend if you'll date her ex especially if that guy had been rude to her.. Kim is right!! She ate her words.. I'm happy for SG that she listened to her mom!! GA bastard!!

Anonymous said...

you are definitely right..does maja even remember all those negative things she said about gerald just so kim would wake up from her hellish life back then?? same with cacai..yan ang sinasabi ni kim, kinain lang niya lahat ng sinabi nya..kim is not chummy chummy with ge even if they are already civil and would say hi/hello only. kim wants to keep it that way..no need to be close again..but at least eveybody has moved on. kim is giving xian a chance to prove his worth..kaya i dont see maja's point in becoming close with gerald..for what? where is her loyalty? delicadeza wala siya..and as for gerald, where is his sense of decency? ikaw ang lalaki, makakapili ka ng liligawan..pipiliin mo pa ang bff ng ex mo whom you caused so much pain??

Anonymous said...

taon daw ngayon ng betrayal.kaya mag-ingat sa mga taong akala mo ay totoong mong mapapagkatiwalaan.matalino si kim di na nya na babalikan yung mga taoong nanakit at trumaydor sa kanya.

Anonymous said...

Very well said can you post this to all fanpage especially kimxi fanpage so that everybody would know how to have delicadezA and loyalty as a friend yun ang punto Hindi yung Hindi maka moveon thank u for posting hope it will clear all the matter

Anonymous said...

sa nangyayari ngayon, napag-isip ko tuloy na never naging friend ang turing ni Maja kay Kim. Parang may motibo sya kung bakit sya nkipag-closed kay Kim.

juliana said...

You nailed it down! Kim is hurting not because she hasn't moved on. She is hurting because the person whom she trusted so much betrayed her. Yes, for me it's an act of betrayal. Maja knows what are the things that Gerald did to Kim before and she still has the guts to be close to him! If Kim is really important to her, she would not even get close to Gerald outside work! For her to understand Kim's feelings, think of her being on Kim's shoes...would she love the feeling that her best friend is romantically involved with his b*llsh*t ex? That guy doesn't even care what others would feel as long as he gets what he wants! But come to think of it...Maja and Gerald deserve each other! They are both USERS and ST*PID!

Anonymous said...

I've never liked maja eversince. She's fair as an actress, a good dancer. Pero may something sa kanya na reason kung bakit di ko sya magustuhan. And yes, i had the feeling even the first day na bbf na sila ni kim na she was not sincere. Especially when they guested @ kristv. Wherein sbi ni maja, friend nya c kim hindi porket kim chiu sya. Bkit naman nya naisip sabihin un? And then i doubted, bka un talaga intention nya, i-friend c kim kc sikat!

Anonymous said...

Kaya feeling ni maja wala sya ginawang mali flirting with mr anderson kc di naman sincere ang pakikipag kaibigan nya kay kim. In short, ginamit na naman c kim. Well, ganyan talaga pag sikat. Go kim!!

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with the writer's opinion. I know I've never been in Kim's situation before but as a real friend you could have avoided this things (dating with you bff's ex) to happen. She should have used her mind over his heart. 'Delicadeza, Respect, Loyalty, Ethics, Conduct, etc.' these words shouldn't be forgotten in any situation.

Anonymous said...

It's nice to see Kim speaking up of her feelings! yan ang walang pretentions, hindi plastic! sometimes sa pananahimik, masyado na naapakan ang pagkatao nya kaya Go #KimChiuBetterAndFearless

Anonymous said...

I think the deal with Kim and Gerald is that the relationship ended so badly perhaps; and Kim was probably left bitter. Gerald mustn't have apologized or something. Had the relationship ended properly, I don't think Kim would have any bitter feelings toward her best-friend dating her ex.

Anonymous said...

just done watching Gerald's interview and he mentioned the word RESPECT.. i think MAJA and GE should google what respect is....

maja, i liked her before... find her so simple but i guess looks could always be deceiving.. kaya sguro nagkasuntukan issue din si mateo at coco dati sa kati nitong si maja....

i am not a kim chui fanatic, but looking at the two ladies... i think kelangan ni maja ng TROSYD... buy her some kim.. :P

Anonymous said...

Your right, kng aq ang isang true friend d ko n iisipin png makipaglapit s x ng bff ko...mas bibigyang importansya ko ung friendship at tiwalang binigay s akin...

Anonymous said...

This had happened to me in the past. Me at Kim's side. But I didn't care and made it a big deal, damaged has been done. I moved on. Why care about them if they like each other?

Anonymous said...

Kim is only telling what the truth is...she really deserve the sympathy of people she is strong and have more confident in her self...i really like her the way she talk she act and evrything...i always look forward juday is a good example with kim personallity ryt now...down to earth,humble and approachable...love u kimmy...stay for what u are....dont let other people stab behind ur back..be strong stay happy and always pretty...

Anonymous said...

tama lahat mga sinabi nyo. Where's the word 'mafriend'? a true friend is one soul in two bodies but it seems maja don't possess this. Ge is a happy go lucky type of guy, get lost man!

Anonymous said...

Stop judging anyone please I know u have ur own opinion, but whats coming out of ur mouth its not nice at all. Its like wala kyong pinag-aralan because the way u talk its like is that the one u learn from ur school. And besides wlang may ksalanan dto it was just an accident na it happen & that can happen to anyone. I think this is just a trial for them to see if they can pass this challenge. So people stop being so mean to them thats it & thats my opinion too.

Anonymous said...

Sorry to tell you its not an accident i don't buy that.Maja grown up woman she knows what she is doing Gerald will take her he doesnt care who are you what are you as long he can get piece of you he did not respect maja at all.For him to say on the Buzzz kung payag si Maja ligawan siya they already seen them together how many times get out one of the condos.I really dont care what you say still wrong what she did and wish Kim forgive her and move on don't be friend with her anymore she is not good for you next you know she take Xian too makati at majarot kasi.She likes to party and get drunk she is the one who invite Gerald di ba.

Anonymous said...

i agree sa writer nito, Si Maja eversince malandi at maharot na sa mga lalaki, kaya cguro hindi na rin sya binalikan ni Matteo dahil harap harapan kung yumakap sya sa mga artistang lalaki. Kung ako ang kaibigan ni Kim, tama lalayo at hindi ako makikipagclose sa taong nanakit ng damdamin ng kaibigan ko at nagtaksil. YUn sinabi nya sa kristv na kaibigan nya si kim hindi dahil kim chiu asan ung sinasabi nya na yun. halata naman na ginamit nya lang si kim chiu dahil alam nyang madaming fans at sikat. See napasama pa sya sa IKA at nasasama ang pangalan nya kay Kim Chiu. Tama si KIm , Go kim nasa iyo ang aming suporta hindi ka masyadong nagsasalita sa press pero this time lalo mo kmi pinahanga sa bagong fearless Kim Chiu. We love u Kim andito lang kmi lagi sayo. Wag masyado magtiwala basta basta may inggit yang si Maja sayo.

Anonymous said...

parang 'yong line ni Kim kay Gerald sa movie - "syinota mo ang best friend mo". Off the camera this time, "syinota mo ang best friend ko".

Anonymous said...

I am happy that Kimmy is talking right now abt. who the real Gerald ANderson is-if before d nya sinabi na napakaraming babae ni Gerald now she is speaking...ang taong mabait talaga pag nagalit u woulldnt know what she is capable of doing-in the case of Kim before d sya nagsasalita pero ngaun sinabi na nya ang totoo....good decision Kim for cutting ur ties w/ Maja-she is not a true friend-stay away from her - u wouldnt even know one day gigising ka na lang na inaahas na nya si Xian sa u...d lang nya magawa agad kc alam nya gaano kaloyal si Xian sa u at love na love ka-but u dont know what she is up to esp. w/ the kind of girl she is.....

Anonymous said...

we should not be judgemental, we only see pictures and we dont know whats really the true story behind that, its not that maja already is the gf of gerald she cannot even defend hersef dahil pinangunahan na siya ng mga comments, and if they were really true friends they should talk amongst themselvbes as mature women,

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Anonymous said...

Tama lang na mag speak out si kim.Sobra akong nainis sa interview ni gerald sa the buzz,MATURITY ka pang nalalaman,mas dapat mong sabihin yan sa sarili mo,dahil di mo alam yang maling ginagawa mo.Its not a coincidence,i guest he just only wan+ some fun,tamang tama ganun din si maja kahit kanino pumapatol kaya laspag na!

Anonymous said...

The Real Issue here is THE BETRAYAL OF TRUST DONE BY YOUR BFF WHOM YOU CONSIDER THE ONE YOU COULD CLING TO IN THOSE TRYING MOMENTS OF YOUR LIFE.Kim considers her BFF as a BIG SISTER TO HER. TOO BAD IT Was NOT Reciprocated . AND PLEASE - DON'T TRY TO DISTORT THE REAL FACTS OF OTHER PEOPLE WHO STILL INSIST & MAKE KIM THE ONE WHO HASN'T MOVED ON MY GOSH 'WHO WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A GUY LIKE THE EX- WOMANIZER,LIAR ,NO RESPECT FOR DECENT LADIES KIM^& SARAH WHO GE HAS CONSTANTLY HURT. SAW THE VIDEO OF SARAH LAST SUN.-TEARY EYED WHO SANG -LYRICS LOVE IS NOT A GAME . . THE EX SHOULD NOT BE GIVEN THE AWARD -' MAKABATA'W/C WAS GIVEN ANNUALLY.SHAME ON HIM - YOU'RE NOT A ROLE MODEL FOR THE YOUTH.YOU;RE A PATHETIC LIAR IN THE BUZZ.

Anonymous said...

Gerald and Maja are meant to be a couple, cause they are of the same kind - trash-

Anonymous said...

I dont like Maja at all. She is a flirt and a player when it comes to relationship. Mas matagal na siya sa showbiz kesa kay Kim pero di pa umuusad ang career niya. That is why I was bothered when she became a friend of Kim Chiu. I was like anticipating that something like this will happen, that sooner or later Maja will show her true colors. True indeed. how could she do that? This woman is so insensitive. She knew from the very start that this immature and selfish Gerald Anderson was the one who hurt her bestfriend. He gave her so much pain. And suddenly nakikipagdate na siya? Hindi totoo at hindi sincere na bff yang Maja na yan. Walang kwentang kaibigan. Ipagpapalit ang friendship sa lalaki lang.

Anonymous said...

Probably for Kim, it's not ok to date her ex not because she's still hung up with him but more of being protective of her friend. The writer was right when she said if things ended with kim and ex in a good note, then, probably Kim would be very happy if Maja ends up with him...I guess, it's just like endorsing a good product. But since it didn't, she's just afraid that her friend would experience the same aches and pains that she did when she was still with the guy. She's just kind of wondering, knowing all those experiences she had, why her friend chooses to or is willing to take that risk or chance with the ex---knowing his ways with women. She probably said that her friendship with Maja is wasted because she will not be able to tolerate being around with them, again, not because she still likes the guy, but more of not trusting or questioning the guy's intentions toward her friend.
For Maja, probably she already had thought it through and ended up really liking the guy. That's why she even asked Kim as a sign of respect. The relationship might have not worked for Kim and ex and maybe she's hoping that it would be different with the two of them. It's just a risk she's willing to take. She's a grown up woman and she wants to find out. She'll never know if she will not give it a try.

So clearly, they're not on the same page so they might as well part ways for now. But when the time comes or if the time comes that Kim's fears come to pass, I hope she'll also be there for her friend the same way her friend was with her when she went through that low point in her life. They are young and still needs to learn a lot in life and as a friend, parent, sister or brother of a person you love, you have to let them go through an experience to let them mature and grow to be a better person. You may not always agree with their choices, but if you really care and love a person, you just have to let them be. You have to love them, warts and all. Love is being with a person through good as well as bad times.
Sometimes, things happen in life that, though avoidable, just happens. Let Maja go through the journey she wants to take and respect Kim for choosing to be from a distance. In the end, both will learn something and come out as even stronger and better individuals.
For me personally, I don't like the ex but I'm not going to waste my time talking about him....not worth it. I'm just focusing on the two beautiful women with an awesome friendship that is being tested right now.

Anonymous said...

Hayaan na if Maja-Gerald rumor is true, bagay na bagay naman sila.

Si Gerald, feel na feel ang pagiging gwapo. In short, conceited. Di lang yon, tingin ko, despite of seeing himself as gwapo and irresistible, deep down is a very insecured person. That's why he's trying to compensate for something that's lacking probably in his life. Maybe love and attention...like na like nya ang maraming girls na nagmamahal sa kanya tapos sasaktan lang nya to feed his ego at para makakuha ulit ng attention from the media at madlang people.

Si Maja naman, walang wala na ba talagang ibang lalake at talagang she can't say no to Gerald. Sayang ba if she'll take a pass on him? Kahit na nagpaalam sya kay Kim, that's very insensitive saka parang konting decency at delikadesa naman. Kita na nyang sukang-suka tong friend nya sa guy na yon tapos ipapasok na naman nya sa circle nila ni Kim si Gerald eh she can't stand him nga kahit pa nakamove on na sya.Sya nga dapat ang higit na nakakaalam non.

Kaya hayaan na sila at pareho naman walang kwenta. Hindi kailangan sa buhay ang ganyang mga tao. Surround yourself with good people to be better people...hihilahin ka lang pababa ng mga yan.

Anonymous said...

taga cagayan si maya marami kasing malalandi doon.

Anonymous said...

Gerald just can't stand the fact that Kim Chiu is over him and is happy and more successful with Xian Lim.

Kaya to create some noise, get attention for himself, and feed his ego, ano pa nga naman ang best way to do that but to link yourself to the bestfriend of your sikat ex gf. Kasi hindi nagwork yon ikabit ang sarili sa pop star princess at naunsyame dahil sa malakas na pang amoy ni mommy D sa "not so good" guy. O di ba, di instant sikat sya, nakakuha pa ng interview by himself sa the buzz, eh di all eyes and ears nga naman sa kanya....effective! I watched his previews interviews na umiiyak sya non saka eto ngang sa the buzz...geez, I can't stand this guy...so fake and feeling....

Anonymous said...

True!! para sa akin mahirap tlaga traydorin ng isang kaibigan lalo na kung best friend mo pa! ok lang sana kung friend lang ung di mo masyadong close? pero kung best friend eh ibang usapan na..!! na aawa ako kay kim kasi nangyari nayan sa akin masakit tlaga ang feeling na traydorin ka... kaya naka relate tlaga ako sa sitwasyon ni kim..!! pero di tungkol sa lovelife ang reason gaya nito iba un sa akin! hahahah secret na lang... basta ang lesson dito huwag magtiwala agad kasi kadalasan daw kung sino pa ung taong pnagkakatiwalaan mo eh kaaway mo pala! yun lang thanks!!

Anonymous said...

I never liked Maja from the very first time i saw her on TV. She is pretty, that's a truth, she can dance. That's it. Other than those 2 positives, there's nothing more. She has no Charisma at all. And there is something about her that is just not likeable, I can't point my fingers at it. Basta, there is something about her that is not likeable. I don't know what it is,but it is her whole being, something that defines personality that is not so attractive.

Anonymous said...

If this happened to me, eto siguro ang mga nasa utak ko: Ano kaya yun...ang loyalty ng best friend ko nasa ex ko na nagparamdam sa akin na hindi ako worth mahalin at irespeto.

O sige, fine..sabihin na natin na nain-love eh (kaso, agad-agad?) Dapat intindihin ko din, di ba. Ok, pero si BFF ang higit na nakakaalam ng feelings ko towards my ex so kung ganito man ang maging reaction ko, kung totoong bff ko sya, dapat lang na maintindihan nya at harapin yon consequences. Na in time, matatanggap ko din ito kaya hindi dapat sumama ang loob sa akin. Si bff naman, alam naman nyang mahal na mahal ko sya. Baka mamaya, saktan at lokohin din sya non ex ko na yon. At saka paano kami magha-hang-out na magkakasama...eww! napakaawkward naman non. Ayokong ngang kasama sa group yon ex ko na yon, di ko kakayanin makipagplastikan sa kanya...sa pelikula ko lang kaya.

Oh well, let me just be happy for them...that was the stupid me 3 years ago.

Anonymous said...

If I were to admire Maja, I will still not be a fan, ika-hardcore fan ko pa 'yan, it won't happen. Chos!

Anonymous said...

I agree with you 100%. If I was at Maja's position I would have hated that guy who hurt and cheated my friend. But I supposed summing up the situation now, I guess Maja was just waiting for the right time and maybe tried to comfort Kim while celebrating deep inside during those times. Maybe she've been secretly hoping and wishing that she was Kim when Kim and Gerald were still sweet. Yah, she is nothing but a wasted friend. Not worth the confusion Kim. Move on...now you know that you can never trust other than your family. Kim you are so successful and you made it through all the challenges, stay up there and stay humble. I will support you all the way.

Anonymous said...

Selfishness at its peak! Kim told "go girl walang masama" the fact na okay kay kim makes me wonder why she got mad when the rumors came about. Kasi she knew everything. I conclude na may feelings siya that's why hurt siya nong makita niyang masaya sila. She thought all the while na okay sa kanya pero hindi niya lang pala maamin sa sarili niya na she is still hurting. 3 years na sila wala bago pumasok sa picture si maja. Walang sinadya its destiny. Madaling sabihin pero mahirap diktahan ang puso. Kung nadidiktahan edi sana wala ng nagkakamali sa pagmamahal. Kung palaay niya wastef ang friendship nasa kanya niya yun kung matanggap niya walang ma waste kasi si maja humble naman na nagrereach out sa kanya when she told shes hurting.

Anonymous said...

what selfishness are you talking about? it is not destiny, you know it's mere kalandian. lahat ng taong may delikadesa, hindi magagawa ang ginawa ni Maja. obvious wala siya non. at si gerald pa. isa pang walang kasiyahan.... palilipat, paikot-ikot sabi nga

Anonymous said...

I HATE maja salvador like she's a disease hw cam sumone like her exist,she's notin but a loose bitch en a backstabber,I jst hope she knows ders karma,she wil gt this betrayal bk in ten folds......as for kim I feel ur pain buh atleast u should seperate paul from barnabas, u cn forgive her but neva be frnds wid her again....NEVER

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